I was just reading the last page here so I apologize if I'm being redundant. If you're trying to address more than 3GB ram in a 32 bit Windows machine, it won't work. I know your motherboard spec may say it can handle 4GB or more, but windows will not address it until you upgrade to a 64 bit system. To be able to do that, you'll need a mobo and cpu that supports 64 bit architecture (e.g. AMD 64, Intel EM64T), VSL will have to release a 64 bit version of VI, you'll need a 64 bit version of your sequencer, and you'll need 64 bit drivers for your PCI cards. I don't think VI is even on the calendar yet for a 64 bit release.
For now, you can get perfectly acceptable peformance using a LAN or FX teleport network. You just need PCs that can upgrade to 3GB ram and have CPU speeds greater than 3gHz. Memory is fairly inexpensive, and both Intel and AMD are cutting prices on their currrent CPU lines in advance of the new Core 2 Duo. I just put a D950 cpu in my host machine for $225. I've overclocked it to 3.8+ and its taking everything I can throw at it. Right now I'm running 24 VI tracks, two pianos, track effects everywhere, and the thing is just humming along at 25C.