I was able to connect just now by putting VeProSurround.VST3 inside MetaPlugin (in 7.1.4 mode). Then I was able to connect to it from that instance...but alas....this limits me to only 16 midi channels due to limitations of MetaPlugin....so its not really a useful solution right now... But at least I was able to actually connect from SOMETHING in 7.1.4 mode to VePro in 7.1.4 mode.
Well I don't know why it wouldn't work from cubase, but I probably have to learn more about setting up a proper surround mix in Cubase.
LogicPro simply does not work...AU and AU3 I think are supposed to automatically detect when they are on surround channels and do the right thing, but its not working with VePro.AU or VePro.AU3
That's all I will have time for on this, giving up for now. If I want to do surround MirPro3D mixes I will simply not use VePro..its too complicated and doesn't seem to work very well or even at all in some cases.