I encountered the very same problem recently. Sadly the only thing you can do is either thin out your orchestra (never a good option) or bite the bullet and go buy additional slave devices in order to cope with the loads.
I was doing all my work from one Macbook Pro 17 inch back 2 years ago. The way my orchestra does it's thing these days, and how I'm composing means I now have 3 iMacs running my libraries, each of them maxxed out with 16 gig's RAM. And I can now compose again with a buffer setting of 512 :P (haven't seen it that low in a LONG time).
I was lucky to find an ex-demo 27 inch iMac to save some $$$. But the good news is that a decent slave device doesn't have to be epic .. something along the lines of a Mac mini (to which there are many PC equivelents) will do as a slave and they don't cost the earth.