Hi Lowkey,
I understand your problem perfectly. What seems to be so easy and naturally to achieve with a real recording, is like a book with seven seals in the realm virtual orchestration.
Actually, there are little to no dedicated tools to achieve the convincing three-dimensional feel of a large (virtual) ensemble you are aiming for. Up to now, getting it right was always a combination of several different reverb-algorithms, dedicated delays and/or early reflection-patterns, lots of EQing, some fiddling with panorama-settings, maybe a bit of dynamics processing -- and a good amount of luck.
This is exactly the reason why we tried to figure out a convincing (and logical) solution for this problem quite some time ago. I'm happy to say that the upcoming Vienna MIR is _exactly_ what you're looking for. Working in these three-dimensional multisampled venues, you get the perfect sense of depth of a stage, plus the natural blending between the single instruments and ensembles, with surprisingly little effort or additional processing.
Kind regards,
/Dietz - Vienna Symphonic Library