"...it's a little confusing why VI have MIRx and Synchron ones don't."
Synchron products are recorded in the Synchron Stage. Synchron-ized products are samples initially recorded in the Silent Stage, then processed by special IR's to be placed in the Synchron stage.
Why would MIRx put a Synchron / Synchron-ized library on the Synchron stage when VSL has already recorded or placed it there for you? Indeed, that is why it sounds so good out of the box.
This same question occurred to me when I first read, "It detects Strings Pro viola section as one viola, and puts it smack next to double basses." If by "Strings Pro" you mean Synchron Strings Pro, why are you asking for MIR to place it automatically? It's already there. That's the essence of the product. Placement and reverb are adjusted in the Mix tab of the Synchron Player with four or more microphone outputs. Indeed, outputting a Synchron product through a MIR plugin could countermand the spatial qualities and freedoms that you bought in the library.
I do empathize with your struggles though, not so much with MIR, but with the general aggravation of learning new software. Programs have a way of making sense in retrospect, as galling as that thought is in the pique of our frustration.
By the way, I didn't fully understand MIRx until recently. And I've owned MIR since it came out. Hang in there.