I am dying for this feature as well. I have a slave computer that has 12gigs of ram and is loaded up with 11.3 gigs of samples basically covering a majority of my template. It takes about 50 minutes to fully load my metaframe on this machine.
My main machine is quite stable, however it does crash from time to time. When it does, because I don't have a force disconnect feature on the server, I am forced to unload and exit that whole 11.3 gigs of samples which seems to take about 10 minutes to fully unload that metaframe without force quitting. Loading that meta frame back up takes almost 50 minutes. All of this just because we cannot manually disconnect projects when we want/need to. I have at least 1 hour stolen from my day if I have a crash now. I don't ANYONE that could deem that as acceptable.
I am a very busy composer and do NOT have time to reload my full orchestra every time my main machine has a crash. This is the whole reason why I've went with VE Pro in the first Place!!!
I also think that somehow connecting the force disconnect to the delete project function would do nothing to help this situation. Think about it.....The whole point is that I do not want to have to delete or unload the VE Pro Projects when my Main Machine crashes. I need to disconnect without deleting or unloading ANYTHING from my metaframe.
Thanks you all at VSL for your groundbreaking products. I couldn't make music without you!